Love Is The Language Of The Heart.
07/2025
Have you ever thought about what obstacles are between you and Love? Have you considered that these could be limitations that you have unconsciously put on Love? Many people refrain from living the most wonderful love story simply because it does not match what they believe they deserve. They watch the romantic movies, listen to the love songs, and live vicariously through them, instead of going after that type of relationship. This goes back to the "stories" each one of us has about love.
What we mean by this is that each one of us is currently manifesting the loving relationship we believe we deserve. Not the one we say we want, but the one we see ourselves being worthy of. And most of the time it's a reflection of our parents' relationship. So if you look at your current relationship status/partner and it checks all your "boxes", great! If it doesn't, there's work to do.
We believe it's good to have a checklist of qualities for who we want as a romantic partner: age, profession, income, looks, shape, personal hygiene, education, etc. However, many people get attached to that list and let go of who could be the love of their life simply because "they are not a Doctor", or "my family wouldn't approve". The romantic comedy "IQ" with Meg Ryan, Tim Robbins and Walter Matthau greatly illustrates this point. When was the last time you said "Wahoo!"?
And we believe the main reason they get attached to that list is because of their own limiting beliefs. If they don't believe deep in their core that they are worthy of the relationship of their dreams, they will put obstacles on the way so that it won't happen. Or if they already have this person in their lives, they will push them away.
Others, although fewer, have been told by society what love should look like. Who they should date, what race, creed, color, income level, profession, sexual orientation, etc. And even though their hearts break because of this separation, they'd rather please their parents, friends, society in general, than go for what they really want (as in the movie Persuasion). Or at best they'll be in a relationship behind closed doors, because within those walls nobody can judge them.
One of our clients shared with us her experience when she met an Italian man a few years ago. The connection between them was something out of a Hallmark Movie. They fell deeply in love. She said that even songs took on a different meaning since they met. Neither one had experienced something like this before, or since. Unfortunately, she could not see a possibility for a lasting relationship. Some of the things that were in the way for her was the age gap (she is 6 years older), the fact that they were from different countries, and that he was a server in a hotel, while she had a high profile corporate job. So she didn't give it a chance, she just walked away.
She is currently in a committed relationship with someone who is older than her by 2 years, with a similar salary, and from her home town. And although she is happy, her heart always longs for the love, the connection, the passion, and the feeling of being alive she shared with her Italian man. Who is also in a committed relationship, but he told her it's mostly just to try to move on and mend his broken heart.
We would not give her advice on what to do or how to proceed. However, we do see possibilities opening up for her as she goes through her healing journey. She has recognized that the choices she made were based on her beliefs that she didn't deserve a loving relationship that beautiful. That she modeled the relationship she's currently in after her parents relationship. So she thinks she may have settled instead of challenging those beliefs and embodying the woman who is worthy of Love.
And that's what we want for you, to open up to possibilities. One of our clients was in a, in her words, "bland" marriage and did not believe she could experience love, ever, with anyone. When we asked, she literally said "It's impossible!". After going through her healing journey, she not only began to see possibilities, but she listened to her heart, and finally got the relationship that she always wanted with the man she never thought she could be with. And she broke the cycle that her parents and her grandparents had been in; the "bland" marriage.
So what is more important for you, having a beautiful, loving, fulfilling, passionate, joyful, intimate, empowering relationship, or whether or not they have the right job, income, political affiliation, etc.? Jobs, income, opinions, all that can change, but as we mentioned before, who the person is (under the mask) that is real. We don't see that with our eyes, but with our hearts. It's what we call "Heart speak", and when the heart speaks the brain must listen. Have you ever given a hug, heart-to-heart, and felt that you could communicate better than your brain could? Have you ever kissed someone and it felt like there was no kisser and no kissed, there was only the kiss?
Romance exists, it is alive today, and it can be yours! It's not only in the movies and love songs. It is up to you to remove the obstacles and experience it fully! We are here to help you clear all the stories, all the beliefs, all the limitations in your brain that tell you: you can't have it. You can begin to live your most romantic love story today! All you have to do is choose it and we'll work together to create your happily ever after. Just like Julia Roberts did in Eat, Pray, Love.
In Ayni,
Ayni Holistic Healing
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