Are You Afraid To Be Seen?
02/2025
What is the "V" word and why is it so scary for a lot of people? It is one of the things that stops many people from moving forward in their lives. It also keeps them from creating deep meaningful relationships. It's the difference between saying "I love you" and saying "Ditto". In fact, it keeps people from coming here and receiving Shamanic Energy Medicine because they're afraid of how much they would need to reveal. Can you guess what it is? If you can feel the discomfort already, you probably guessed it... Vulnerability.
So, if vulnerability feels challenging for you, we're here to put your mind at ease. The first thing we'll say is that with us you don't need to share anything you don't want to. We always encourage our clients to share whatever is troubling them, but to the degree that they're comfortable. In other words, we don't need to know any details.
What we need to know is the "story", the belief that's running in your life. By sharing past events, people involved, etc. it only helps us understand you better but it's not really necessary. We only need the conclusions you reached in those moments, because that's what we're going to be working with.
Many of our first time clients think they need to address something that is bothering them right now, or a series of past events. For example, pain, past mistakes, humiliation or betrayal they recently experienced, or heartbreak, etc. But regardless of what's going on at the moment, we'll do our best to get to the root of it all. So, let's say you come in with regret over mistakes you made in the past few years, our focus will be on finding the "story", the belief that drew you to make those mistakes, we are not going to focus on the mistakes, or judge you for them. What we're interested in is in getting to the source.
The perfect example of this is a recent client who shared beautifully and clearly. When we wanted to get to the root event, she said "I was about 3 years old. I was in the car with my parents. My dad yelled at me, and then my mom told me not to make my dad angry. At that moment I said to myself: Girl, you're on your own!". And that "you're on your own" is the story that she's been replaying ever since. So she has been living her life congruently with that belief. - She shared a few more details, but for the sake of the length of this entry we're paraphrasing.
Now, could she have been less vulnerable in sharing and still get work done? Absolutely. If she came to us and said, I have been living with this belief that "I'm on my own" for as long as I can remember. We can get to work right away without any further questions.
Most of the people who come to see us don't know what's the story they're living under. That's why we have a Mapping Conversation at the beginning of each session. This Mapping conversation gives us a clearer image of what is going on and helps us understand you better. Your energy during this conversation will reveal itself authentically. It is through this conversation that we can begin to see you, your stories, your light, your shadows, all that's holding you back and no longer serves you. With this image we can get to work.
Also, on your first visit, we may do a process called Tracking. This process allows us to see you on all Four Levels of Perception. And it can help us get a better idea of what's going on and what needs to be addressed. This really comes in handy when the person knows they want this work done, but they're not clear about what needs attention, and also when they'd rather not share much.
Most of our clients want to share about their past events, traumas, accidents, injuries, etc. because they feel it is important for them to speak up about it. And we simply listen, we do our best to be a safe space for them to be able to process their issues out loud. We ask clarifying questions, to be able to understand them clearly and we interrupt when needed to stay on track.
So, as you can imagine, we have heard all kinds of negative events, from failed relationships, childhood trauma, neglect, abuse, religious and cult trauma, infidelity, betrayal, even confessions of being the ones who did those things to others. We have also worked on our family members, close friends, and relatives. And even though they are close to us, they also have situations that they're not willing to reveal to us because it may involve other people we also know. So we respect their wishes, they can maintain absolute confidentiality and we can still do this work effectively.
For most people having someone to be an attentive listener without judgement, and that will keep it confidential, helps them feel safe, heard, seen and that's when they can begin the healing process. Keeping the negative energy of those events will continue to cause damage in the body. There are those who say "I will take my secrets to my grave", but in reality it's the secrets that will take them to their grave.
The bottom line is this, if being vulnerable is something that is keeping you from scheduling a Shamanic Energy Medicine session, know that you will set the level of vulnerability you want to get to, based on your comfort level. This is your session and you are in control at all times.
All we want is for you not to continue to carry these wounds which are causing your current and future health issues. So, if vulnerability has been a challenge for you, we hope this entry helps you feel more at ease so you can book your first session now.
In Ayni,
Ayni Holistic Healing
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